Pictured above: Krista (left) and Gray (right), sharing a smile in the early days of their time together at McKim House in Saint John.
As I reflect on 20 years of both L’Arche in Saint John AND my own 20 years with L’Arche, it is the people who have shared the journey that come to mind. One of my dearest friends is also a member of L’Arche Saint John. I say that like it’s a coincidence, but in reality it is a consequence of L’Arche. Our friendship has changed us both forever and for better.
Krista and I met when she moved to McKim House in 2006. We were an unlikely duo, but as the 2 youngest people in the house we were often buddied up. We disagreed about almost everything, what to watch on tv, what to do on vacation, what was for supper, what music to listen to. Unfortunately, the one thing we DID have in common was that we’re both a bit *ahem* hard headed.
But a miraculous thing happens when you show up for each other everyday. Over time we both grew up, and we grew together. We found out that we are a safe place for each other, that we are both great huggers, that we love our friends and family fiercely. We’ve lived so much together.
Krista’s favourite memory of us is when she was still in High School. I would often drive her to and from school in the valley. Krista is a true lover of Diet Coke, so sometimes on the way home we would stop for pop and chips. After some serious chugging, the burping contest would begin. I lost every single time. We always ended up laughing hysterically.
One of my favourite memories of Krista and I comes from a vacation we took together to PEI a few years ago. Can you beat the feeling of freedom you get from a road trip on a sunny day? We were only just crossing the bridge when Krista reached over and took my hand. She had tears in her eyes and she said, “I love this vacation”. We both had a little cry and said, “I love you”. When it’s just the two of us, we are both free to really be ourselves.
True belonging is a rare and beautiful thing. Krista and I have found that in each other through L’Arche. Building a friendship across differences breaks down walls, changes minds, and makes this world a more inclusive place for everyone. L’Arche Saint John believes in the deeply transformative power of mutual relationships. Twenty years into my time with L’Arche, I do too.
Gray Gillies Mott
Creative Connections Program Leader
3 comments
I have watched this relationship grow for years. I remember Chrissy. Telling me that Gray was her buddy and best friend in all the world dad. I feel the same as Dianne. Merry Christmas and God Bless you all
There is nothing good like having long time friends,this reminds one if the great childhood moments one had.
Especially at St John Larche…where no one is disabled BUT Abled differently.
Congratulations on your friendship
Your relationship (Gray + Krista) brings me such joy and peace. I know that when I am no longer here, Krista will have you and everything will be fine. Thanks so much for your continued love and support.